We don’t live in calm times and are relentlessly
bombarded 24/7 with advertisements telling us to buy stuff we don’t need, with
news reports of the latest buffoonery offered by our political circus and reports
of the latest barbaric savagery committed in the name of GOD. Top that with the
uncertainty of our jobs and health and you can understand a person wanting to
hide in a cave.
A few days ago, a good friend Jessica A. Walsh
posted a blog titled “What Happened When My Power Went Away” Jessica is not
only part of the best writers’ group ever, The South Jersey Writers’ Group, but
this year, she became our Vice President. Jessica is a beautiful and sensitive
person, but in this world, it can be rather overwhelming when something
unsettling happens to you especially if you are a gentle soul. In her blog
post, Jessica explains how an event affected her on three different planes:
mentally, financially and physically.
I’m much older than Jessica and I’ve been in her
exact dilemma many times, but age has a way of allowing you to let go of the
guilt when you are forced to become absent from the world.
Absence
Definition from the Oxford Dictionary: The state of
being away from a place or person; an occasion or period of being away from a
place or person; absence of mind Failure to concentrate on or remember what one
is doing; avoidance; hiatus; truancy.
Jessica was apologizing for her disappearance. There
was no need for an apology because what Jessica’s mind and body had demanded
from her was a good old fashion retreat. Time out is important for survival,
especially, in this world of ours where it’s fashionable to hate and to incite.
Retreat
Definition from the Cambridge Dictionary: To go away
from a place or person in order to escape from fighting or danger; to go to a
quiet place in order to avoid a difficult situation.
Benefits of Absence or Retreats
When I was a young girl at St. Maria Goretti High
School in South Philadelphia, the nuns would take us on a Spiritual Retreat for
the entire day at one of their Mother Houses in the countryside. We were
teenagers who felt that a day spent in quiet contemplation sounded more like a
prison sentence than a learning experience, but we were wrong. The time spent
in silence gave us renewed strength.
Later in life, I learned the benefits to a time out.
I haven’t been on a spiritual retreat since high school, but I have set up a
room inside my house as my little cave; a place to hide. Retreats and
meditation reduce stress, allow your mind to breathe, renew energy and give you
a chance to heal both mentally and physically. Like Jessica, I may hide in my
little cave for days when I’m really feeling crushed by the weight of the world.
I light incense, I play Hindu music, I don’t write, text, tweet or talk to
anyone. My husband understands that because of my compromised immune system it
is beneficial and better than any antibiotic to just let me go into cocoon mode
whenever I need it.
Conclusion
I wanted Jessica to know that it’s okay to
disappear. Even GOD disappeared in the desert for forty days and, he didn’t
have to put up with Trump and Cruz, but HE knew what was coming down the road
and he had to prepare for the journey to Calvary.
In this age of instantaneous non-stop news, we need
to take time to become absent from the world for small periods of time. Many of
us can’t afford to miss work, because we have bills to pay, but we can
designate a specific place in our home that is off limits to phones, television,
computers and stress and just an hour in this room will start the mending. Disconnect
form your cell phones and television for one night and feel the difference.
Beautiful. Thank you for sharing your wisdom, Marie. I've gotten so much better at taking the time outs but not at surrendering the guilt. I call it "turtling" but I like "cocoon" better. I think it has a better, more gentle connotation, one of safety. Thank you, my friend.
ReplyDeleteWe seem to be traveling down the same road to enlightenment and I am happy to have you as a fellow traveler
DeleteAs am I. :-) I am excited (and nervous) to be going on a 2.5 day SILENT retreat in April. That will certainly be very interesting. Stay tuned... xoxo
DeleteYou'll do fine and will come back renewed
DeleteEveryone needs downtime. The problem is finding it. Great post, Marie! And bravo to your husband to understand your occasional need for solitude. ...If only my family of 7 understood this...
ReplyDeleteThank you Victoria. It is hard, but to stay healthy I do fight for my down time. You'll have to come over to my house and hide out
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